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Have you recently gotten into a relationship and are looking for a fun way to bond with your new boyfriend? There are many things and activities which you can do together, but asking these questions is always fun! Especially if you just started dating or if you never knew the answer to these questions. Since communication is the key to a happy, healthy, and long-lasting connection, you certainly should get to know all of the tiny details about your partner. These are 21 questions to ask your new boyfriend!
We would desire to present you with the ultimate list of questions you can ask your boyfriend to find more information about him, his past life, family, and friends. This list consists of different types of questions, the deep ones, the dirty ones, and the romantic ones that will certainly bring you two together.
If you are not quite sure when to ask him these questions, and you do not want to seem so pushy- make a game out of it! Tell him to come up with ten questions that he wants to ask you, and you should do the same (with the help of our list), take turns, and answer together. Our questions will also work with the popular Never have I ever drinking game if that sort of thing makes you two more comfortable. You will for sure have lots of fun!
Also, our advice for you is to choose wisely which questions you will be asking. Try not to make your boyfriend uncomfortable, and make sure that he will be glad to answer your question. Do not push him to talk about topics he does not want to discuss.
So, let’s get started!
The ultimate list of questions to ask your boyfriend
- Do you ever want to get married?
Popping up this question will certainly determine the pace of your relationship. If your goal in a relationship is to grow together and eventually get married, you should find out what your partner thinks about that. Does he have the same opinion, or does he not want to ever settle down. You will certainly see his point of view after asking him this question.
2. Do you believe in supernatural things?
This is one of those silly questions that will certainly start a very interesting conversation. You two will for sure get a good laugh and some fun when discussing vampires, ghosts, or werewolves.
3. Do you like working out and going to therapy?
Now, this question might be a tricky one since not everyone is comfortable talking about their mental health. Think about it before asking your boyfriend this so that he does not react in a bad way, but as a reassurance, going to the therapist should be as common as going to the gym! Just one is for your physical health and the other one is for your mental health, which is why I mixed them together.
4. What is your favorite song?
Music makes the people come together. Almost everyone likes to talk about music and even better their favorite artists. Getting to know your partner’s music taste can be a fun thing to do. If you want to, you can also discuss his favorite bands, genres, or his all-time favorite song in general.
5. Do you believe in soul mates?
We do not know how you and your hubby met, but we are sure that it was romantic. If you are a person that believes in soul mates, and you even possibly think that your bae is yours, you should certainly ask him about his opinion on this certain topic.
6. What would be your perfect Valentine’s Day?
This is an awesome question to ask him especially if Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. When you know his answer, and the way he would like to spend that day, you could easily come up with a nice surprise that will blow him away.
7. What is your biggest fear?
We have yet another question that will make the conversation between your partner and you simply flow. With this question, you will get to know what‘s the thing that scares your partner most.
8. What is your dream job?
If you want to know something about your partner’s ambitions and passions, this is the perfect question which you should be asking him. Dreams can often become reality, so, you will certainly know which goals your boyfriend is trying to accomplish.
9. Are you a cat or a dog person?
Do you want to find out if your partner loves animals just as much as you love them? You sure do! Even better, if you want to find out more about his life in general, ask him if he has ever had a pet cat or a dog and what was his/her name.
10. What was your first impression of me?
By popping up this question, you will get to know your boyfriend’s reaction to the time when he first saw you. Maybe he did not like you as much at the beginning that can make an interesting detail of your relationship. Just like in those romance movies where the fella rejects a girl and then falls madly in love with her-perfect!
11. How many girlfriends did you have before me?
One of many questions that will have your boyfriend open up about his past. To spice things up, add a follow-up question and ask him “how long was your longest relationship” if he had any.
12. What is your zodiac sign?
If you are a girl that is into astrology, this question might have already been asked and you probably know what type of person he might be. On the other hand, if you are not into astrology, asking him this question will start a conversation where you can eventually find out when is his birthday.
13. Is there anything you would like to change about yourself?
Being vulnerable with your boyfriend is one of the things that make a relationship great. When you ask him this question, you will start to uncover that vulnerable, pure side of him. If he has any kind of insecurities, greet them and accept them, therefore letting him know that you will always care for him no matter what!
14. What’s your favorite thing about yourself?
After talking about his insecurities and flaws, you should also get to know the good things about him. What are the things that he is most confident about? Find out about them and make him feel special!
15. What are the things that turn you on?
Having to know the dirty side of the person whom you are in a relationship with is basically the most ordinary thing. No need to be ashamed to ask this question, since you two are in a relationship the tension must be immaculate. No harm done in getting to know what your guy likes and doesn’t like.
16. What does your perfect date look like?
Since all of us are very different and we like different things, the main thing that you should be doing is finding out what things in common do you and your boyfriend have. By asking him this question, you will already have an idea of what your next date should look like!
17. What do you like most about me?
Not only will you hear some nice compliments here but all of them will be coming from the person who you like. Some of us like to ask our boyfriends these kinds of questions because you will also get to see if they notice the small things about you!
18. How often do you read?
From this question, you will be able to find out if your boyfriend likes to enjoy reading a good book now and then. Who knows, he might be such a bookworm that has a collection full of classics. On the other note, this is a real conversation opener since you can ask him about his favorite book genres if he loves to read.
19. Do you have any bad habits?
When we say bad habits we mean habits that are generally bad for you, like nail-biting. You can find out a lot about a person based on their habits. Since we have already mentioned nail-biting, usually people who bite their nails have some form of anxiety. So, that’s yet another thing that you can find out from this simple question.
20. What are some of the biggest lessons that your previous relationships have taught you?
Everyone has the past carrying a lot of baggage from it. When your boyfriend starts talking about his previous relationships and girlfriends, try not to get a little jealous. From this question, you can find out if he has ever been cheated on, does he have trust issues, and what you can generally expect from him in this relationship.
21. Do you procrastinate a lot?
Yes, all of us procrastinate. We believe that there is not a single person on this earth that does not procrastinate now and then. But, long procrastinating periods could make issues appear. So, by finding out if he is a passionate procrastinator or not, you will also find out if he is a hard worker who actively works on achieving their dreams.
Some funny questions to start a good conversation
If you are a person with a good sense of humor and you can basically talk about any topic, here are some of the interesting questions you should be asking your boyfriend. These are great convo openers, and we are sure that you will have a blast!
Here is just a little extra list that can sometimes come in handy!
- What is your favorite conspiracy theory, and do you believe in it?
- What is the dumbest thing that you have ever bought?
- What is the most expensive thing that you own?
- What is the funniest joke that you have ever heard?
- What is one chore that you absolutely hate doing?
- Who do you think is the best actor in the world?
- What is one of the worst dreams that you have ever had?
- If you were a book, which kind of book would you be?
- What is the first thing that you would do if you could be a girl for a day?
- What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?
We are sure that these questions will both help you gather up more information about your boyfriend, get to know him better, and also make you two have a lovely time talking. You will probably have a good laugh and enjoy your whole conversation if you decide to choose some of the funny questions. They are a great way to start a conversation which might end up being awesome!
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